If you are the Father of the Bride, the Best Man or
the Maid of Honor in an upcoming wedding, then tradition states that you will be
required to give one of the traditional speeches for a wedding. This speech is
often given at the wedding reception and normally follows the cake cutting
portion of the reception. This is a time honored tradition and one that holds a
lot of meaning not only for the Bride and Groom, but also for the wedding
guests. This speech will encompass memories that you share with the Bride or
Groom as well as congratulatory wishes and advice for the happy couple.
Speeches for a Wedding - Protocol
When it is time for the speeches to begin, this is typically announced by either
the Master of the Ceremony or by someone with a microphone. If this is not an
option, then standard protocol is for someone to tap their glass with a piece of
silverware. This is often times considered rude by some, so it is not
recommended if there are other methods available. Speeches for a wedding should
be delivered while standing up and in most cases the person giving the speech
should be facing the bride and groom and speaking directly to them.
Speeches for a Wedding - Order
If you know the bride and groom very well and you want to share a wedding
speech, one of the most important guidelines and traditions must be followed.
Even if you are ready to speak and no one else seems to be willing, do not go
first. It is the responsibility of the Host to make the first speech. Typically
this is the Father of the Bride but in non-traditional weddings, this may be
someone other than the Father of the Bride. Following the host will be the Best
Man and then the Maid of Honor.
Speeches for a Wedding - Example
Here is a small example from a Best Man’s wedding speech:
(Groom's name), we have really shared some amazing years together. I treasure
our friendship and can’t wait to see how wonderful life turns out for the two of
you. Some advice, never go to sleep at night angry. Stay up until you work it
out. Also, (Groom’s name), always remember that three words can fix any argument
and keep your wife happy- “You’re right, honey”. Congratulations to my best
friend and the beautiful bride”. This is a special occasion and a chance for you
to tell the bride or groom how much you love them. Enjoy your moment!