Weddings are a time honored tradition that is full of
beauty and romance. From the beautiful flowers and decorations to the heartfelt
vows and promises of lifelong love, weddings are full of magic! They are also
full of traditions and customs that have been passed down through the years and
that are expected to be followed. In fact, the protocol for wedding toasts is a
little more rigid than some of the other wedding traditions. Toasts may be
emotional, funny or maybe a little of each, but there is an exact order to who
should toast when.
The Father of the Groom
The first toast at a wedding is typically always offered by the Bride’s father.
The Bride’s family typically pays for and hosts the wedding, so this is the
reason why his speech is often first. When speaking, the Bride’s father should
thank each of the guests for attending. He then usually shares some memories of
his little girl growing up and special moments that he has had with her through
Next, the Father of the Bride will usually address the groom and
offer any advice that he thinks is relevant. This toast usually is concluded
with well wishes to the Bride and Groom.
The Best Man
Following the Father of the Bride, the Best Man typically delivers the next
toast or wedding speech. Usually, this speech will last for several minutes, but
probably should not be longer than five minutes all together. This speech
usually includes a few funny stories, memories from his time with the groom in
the past and also well wishes for the new couple in the future.
It is nice if
the Best Man also addresses the bride during this speech at some point. This is
often a high point of the reception and provides the guests with lots of
laughter and sometimes a few tears.
The Maid of Honor
After the Best Man delivers his wedding speech, the Maid of Honor or Matron of
Honor will speak next. This speech typically is similar to the best man’s speech
and will include memories from her time with the bride growing up. Personal
stories are usually shared during this speech and they offer wedding guests a
glimpse into knowing more about the bride and her relationship with her friends.
This is also an appropriate time to thank the Bride’s parents as well as the
bridesmaids and any others that made a significant contribution towards helping
with the wedding or reception preparations.