No event is a celebrated or as filled with tradition as a wedding. There is also no event that has quite as many speeches and toasts. From the bride’s speech at the bridal shower to the best man’s reception toast, it seems like there is always someone raising their glass to speak a few words. Though a number of people speak during the events of a wedding, many of the speaking duties fall to the bride and groom.
Traditionally, the bride is expected to give two main speeches. The first is the bridal shower speech. This is given during the bridal shower in the company of the bride’s female friends and family members as well as the bridal party. This is a fairly informal speech, yet it is also very important. From dress fittings to salon visits, women tend to spend a lot of time, energy, and money in the preparation of the wedding. In some cases the bride or her family pays for some of this. However, there are still a lot of things that they cannot cover. The bridal shower speech is the bride’s opportunity to thank everyone for their efforts.
The second speech the bread is expected to give occurs during the rehearsal dinner. This is her opportunity to thank all of the members of the wedding party as well as close family members and friends for their part in the wedding. Some brides also choose to give a short speech or toast after the wedding during the reception dinner. This allows her to address all of her guests, think them for coming, and say anything she might feel the need to say. The bride may also use this opportunity to say how glad she is to be married to her new husband and to be accepted into his family.
During the events of a wedding, the groom gives one main speech. This occurs at the reception dinner after the wedding, during which the groom formally speaks for himself and his new wife. This speech begins with a formal introduction, followed by statements of gratitude. A well-written groom speech also includes memories, emotional statements, and a little information about what the groom and his bride have planned for their life. He may give the speech alone as per tradition, or he may choose to share the spotlight with his new bride, giving the speech together. Depending on a number of factors, including but not limited to who plans and pays for the rehearsal dinner and the groom’s own wishes, he may also give a speech at the rehearsal dinner.
The speeches given at weddings are usually fairly formal yet very personal. Most if not all of them end with a toast, as the speaker raises his or her glass and invites the guests to join in a toast to the past, present, and future, to family and friends, or simply, to love.